What you see is the blonde hair, what you see is the color of my skin. What you don’t see is the weight I carry, the burdens of the historical trauma that bares my shoulders. As a Native woman, I was born heavy. Ethnically, Fat. My pride and self is so damn hefty I wear a triple X just in being Native. I would never question some else's identity or authenticity. My blond hair is a choice of self-expression, and the second that I have to explain myself is the second you took my voice away. I will forever remain transparent in my writing, and I will never censor the truth even if it is hard to reveal. However, my optimism tells me that time will heal everything, but the experience forces me to hold back the tears.
Facing Historical Trauma Today
With the weather warming, the sun staying out longer, and the joys of warmer weather boosting moral, I am finally able to write this post. I won't front completely; this is probably one of two of the hardest things I will write about this year. I will forever remain transparent in my writing, and I will never censor the truth even if it's hard to bare.
Discoveries of Multipurpose Resilience
I recently was asked to participate in a Stress and Resilience Entrepreneurship Study through the University of Manitoba. The first survey measured my attitude and work preferences, as well as gathered a bit of information about my business. Plus, reflection is the most important part of the learning process. I thought it would be interesting to share the answers and maybe even helpful!
Why not have one more than one purpose for anything. If I spent an hour on this survey, one hour of my valued time, one hour of labor then, I might as well use it to gain my value. I mean after I am down with the study I do receive analyzed results and feedback about my resilience at work including strategies to improve your resilience. I recently heard in one of my "Intro to Farming" sessions I host that the equipment, tools, plants, animals, and everything in your barn or business should have multiple purposes. Abbey Palmer of the MSU North Farm in Chatham, MI says, "Everything on the farm must have two uses in order to sort of justify itself."
Hence why I will also, show off my amazing photos from Erin Elizabeth Photography and -Et Images! Erin and Emma also asked out of the blue to do an impromptu photo shoot, but low key I'm always ready! haha! I am always down for the cause, yes I will stand in the freezing cold and trek through a foot in a half of snow. I prepped my jewelry quick and packed 7 dresses, 9 pairs of shoes, 2 fur coats, and 16 lip sticks! After a 5 hour notice, my hair and makeup was on and I was out in the sticks of Skanee, MI.
2016 AT A GLANCE!
I am one of those people who thought to 2016 was complete crap! I have overcome a lot of adversity from 2016 and still trying to recover. I have preserved through heartbreak (more than once), loss in my family, violence, being dragged through the court system, and witnessing loved ones go the trials of drug addiction. Writing all that out just now and reading it back, is mind blowing. Tragedies started to seem normalized to me. My experiences of hardship almost were the norm, and I questioned how trauma appear to be repetitive, blow after blow. If you know me, then you know I am terribly optimistic, and 2016 brought me a little pessimism. Here goes my optimistic nature, already thinking that may be a good thing to have in life. But as I write about "the struggle" and as I sip my 3rd coffee, it is bringing me awareness at the strength I carry.
On top of it all, it hasn't been easy running a business and working full-time as a public health grant coordinator. I honestly wanted to quit. I mean I did! Mentally I did stop; psychically I didn't. I didn't have the luxury to let myself go completely. I was still going through the days, but it was hard to feel fully awake. I can say now finally I feel like my spark back like I have a drive, energy, and determination again. It has taken a lot of time. Healing takes awareness and accountability. I think it also takes a little selfish-ness, the right kind. The kind where you focus on your self and your wellbeing. Being selfish while being an adult with responsibility can be a little hard, especially when most social norms are against it. I even had to explain "selfish" in a positive manner because it sounds negative. The recuperation mentally and physically allowed me to come back stronger; it gave me a more meaningful relationship with my business and passion.
Wearing the "Cedar Awakening" Collection
Though... October is for getting extra dark and cozy. Everything is an acceptable and fair game, no excuses why you're wearing lipsticks named Dead of Knight, Exorcism and LUV, Bloodmilk and Magical Unicorn...
Even if Magical Unicorn lips are a one night stand, you know what remains timeless!? A little TLE, the unique Tashina Lee Emery original's that no matter the season you can wear my work, and of course... black. But, please do, remain tempted and rock spooky maxi's and know that fuzzy, sleepy nap-time layers are always a must this season especially. Although, mysterious and cozy are two extremes opposite of the October spectrum, they both look fabulous with the Cedar Awakening collection - which happens to be my all time favorite earring!
My Hands Still Shake.
Can we all just shiver at how beautiful the following images are about to make you feel? I want to personally thank the amazing photographer, Sabrina Leigh Studios for the gorgeous photos. The chills, the fuzzies, the little hairs on your arms, and the perma-smile as you scroll. Maybe it is just me; I can't help it! Have you ever had a bond with possession? I'm sure with this generation we all have! Those material things we hold so tight and too tightly, almost obsess over - the stuffed animal, a blankie named "Boo," your cell phone that you can't carry over ledges without your heart pounding. Even my soul breaks when someone drops a phone, it's not even my phone, but we both cringe and anticipate the turn over to see whether the screen smashed and life is over, or if it is saved, and we can all breathe again. Our love for our materials is insane.
The depth of love one can have for a single possession is the exact passion I have put into this dress. The love and care I have had in creating this dress. The stress and struggle that the dress and I have faced together. The effort and education that I endured from taking on such a project. This dress has been one of my longest and toughest projects I have ever committed fully too, in my life! Well, maybe my business in general counts as the longest and most difficult project I have endured.
Hello, I am Miss Keweenaw (Ke·wee·naw) Bay 2008 and University of Michigan Graduate of 2015. I have come from a small Upper Peninsula Rez and have explored as far as Ghana, Italy, and England! My passion is creating wearables that embody my indigenous roots, contemporary vibes, and optimistic outlook on life. I write to give insight into my process, life, and my home as a modern Native with many visions. I want to share to inspire, educate, and empower others. Be sure to keep up to date by subscribing below!